Comments on: Guilty Housewife

By: DeputyHeadmistress

DeputyHeadmistress — Sat, 19 Nov 2005 14:25:36 +0000

I can relate. When we take guests over to see the new house I find myself constantly apologizing for its size. I feel guilty about how big it is, how many rooms it has, how nice the kitchen will be, how much money we’re spending when people are starving all over hte place and don’t have good places to live.
But I don’t see why you do that. I’ve met you. *You* deserve nice things.=)

By: Liz

Liz — Fri, 18 Nov 2005 08:48:56 +0000

I’m cursed with the guilt thing to, but in such a different way. I’ll trade you. Sometime I could just pinch you, augh, what the heck is deserving??? When you stand back and look over the years do you not think you got your share of the lumps to be blessed with such a great thing? (not that God works that way, but it is almost as if you could be deserving if you’d had more rough spots in life) I’ve see you be so grateful during the worst of times, when most can’t see how to be grateful and here is a truly wonderful thing — Just tell Him thank you then go fry me an egg sandwich with cheese no mayo. xxx000

By: Miss Roxie

Miss Roxie — Fri, 18 Nov 2005 08:28:21 +0000

Now! What you really need to do,in your lovely new kitchen, is catch on to how much fun cooking _really_ is!

By: Firefly

Firefly — Mon, 14 Nov 2005 04:53:40 +0000

Oh, my! Did I say my drawers were drooping?! *giggling*
Thanks to all of you for your encouragement, by the way. To be honest, it was somewhat unexpected. I had thought I would end up being chastised for not counting my blessings. I must remember that thanking God in all things means even the very good things. That I should learn to accept his gifts with a happy heart.

By: Gidget

Gidget — Sun, 13 Nov 2005 23:22:33 +0000

Whenever guilt like that creeps in on me, I just decide to Thank God for his blessings, and take a leaf out of Mother Angelica’s book. You never know what God is going to ask you to cook for others in that kitchen!
Besides, those who are grateful for a 50-year old kitchen would also be content knowing that one day God will bless them with drawers that don’t droop too!

By: allison

allison — Wed, 09 Nov 2005 22:54:40 +0000

Hey. First, we too, are redoing our 50 year old kitchen, but slowly, as we’re doing it ourselves, as cash is available. And I can never find anything, and it is quite disconcerting. Second, sounds like you have a hard time feeling you “deserve” anything nice. Well, we don’t “deserve” anything. Not even the air we are able to draw breath from. But God gives us that, and his mercy, and the chance for redemption because he loves us. Certainly not because we “deserve it”. You know we don’t. Technically, we “deserve” death. But He is gracious, and apparently, so is your husband. Accept your gift and enjoy it. Give your husband a gift by showing him you enjoy it. You don’t have to “prove” yourself with neatfreak housekeeping or loving to cook, or being a “perfect” believer, to receive what God has for us. Through Him, and through your sweet hubby!

By: 凯尔

凯尔 — Wed, 09 Nov 2005 21:40:36 +0000

Well, now I don’t feel so guilty for not sending you any Christmas gifts over the years. Leave it you your little brother to make you life a little easier.
Do not look at this as just a kitchen. Look at it as growth for the family. Stop thinking about it as something for YOU, but something for your children and husband (his cooking is much better).
There is nothing better than seeing a family grow into its own. Building a kitchen, improving the home, making their lives better.
Would you rather live in a three bedroom mobile home, or your house? They provide the same thing, a roof over your head, but you feel better giving that home to your children and family. There is no need to feel guilty about anything like that. It’s not like you are putting in gold trimmed doors with diamond studded handles.
I say this, but I can’t even keep my “dorm room” of a home clean. But, then again… I’m going to die a lonely old man anyway. No need to build a home for a family.

By: heather

heather — Wed, 09 Nov 2005 20:30:59 +0000

Never underestimate the power of a well-designed, functional, and beautiful kitchen! You’ll cook at home more, enjoy your home more, and save money all the while! Don’t feel guilty for investing in the home God gave you to create a place you all love to cook, eat, learn, and love!
We redesigned our kitchen in Texas at our second house, and the other two houses we owned had brand new kitchens that didn’t need to be re-done. I can say that all three were such a huge blessing when cooking, having parties, and entertaining family and friends. We also did a lot of our school in the kitchen. It is a natural center of gravity for the house.
If we buy an older home out of state, the first thing I would re-do is the kitchen (if it needed it). Unless there was paint that needed re-doing. I couldn’t function with ugly colors on the wall! We went in a house a few weeks ago that was painted in every room in the most ugly color combinations possible!