Comments on: Bereft

By: Clara

Clara — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 00:35:28 +0000

I lost my mother 3 1/2 years ago. She had been sick for 24 years. Our relationship had been up and down over the years, but we had been close friends for about a year or so when she went Home to be with the Lord. The missing goes on and on. I still cry. I miss her like crazy sometimes, and at other times she doesn’t come to mind so readily. It is not easy, but the pain does lessen.

By: Julie

Julie — Thu, 30 Nov 2006 14:38:07 +0000

Oh Firefly,
You put into words so beautifully what I am feeling. I cried as I read your post, thinking especially of last week when I just wanted to talk to mom. I am so sorry that you are experiencing this with your mother. I think what you and Ellen are going through must be worse than a sudden death of a loved one. I can’t imagine going to visit your parent and not having them recognize you or even notice you are there.
I pray that I can use my experience to bless someone else as you have me.
Thank you for your kind words and for leading me to your post.
Blessings,
Julie

By: Ellen Perry

Ellen Perry — Wed, 29 Nov 2006 11:17:44 +0000

I just read your blog about your feelings for your mother. I totally understand since my Mom
has had Alzheimers for 14 years. She has not known me for at least 1 1/2 yrs. I was taken from my parents at age 3yrs and adopted by my mom and Dad at age 7rs. Dad has been gone since 1979 and I also wonder where Mom went. It is comforting to know someone else has these feelings. She will be going home to be with the Lord at some time in the future. She just had her 90th birthday.

By: beth

beth — Wed, 15 Nov 2006 00:09:29 +0000

That’s exactly how I felt when I lost my Dad. It’s an ache that ebbs and flows, like waves, over the years even. She will always be a part of you, always.
(((hugs)))

By: Firefly

Firefly — Sat, 11 Nov 2006 18:19:26 +0000

Barbara- That is interesting that you quote that particular verse. When my father had a heart attack and quadruple bypass surgery in August, I went to help care for my parents. One night as I was reading my Bible, I came across that verse. It really covers a lot of ground for me. What a comfort to me. Thanks for taking the time to leave such a thoughtful comment.

By: Barbara H.

Barbara H. — Sat, 11 Nov 2006 11:30:11 +0000

My mother passed away last December — this has been a year of facing all the “firsts” without her. I have known that exact same feeling of a little child wanting her mommy — I have said that over and over in my heart. If not for knowing that our times are in His hands, and knowing where she is now and that it is so much better than here, I don’t think I could take it.
There was one period in my teens when my mom left my father for another man who she eventually married — she had taken all of us kids with her, but she wasn’t the same — it felt as if she had left us in her heart for a long time. We had always been close and that breach was so painful. The verse “When father and mother forsake me then the Lord will take me up” ministered to me — He did use the situation to bring me to Himself. And we eventually restored our relationship.
All of that to say — my heart goes out to you.

By: Miz Booshay

Miz Booshay — Tue, 07 Nov 2006 14:09:37 +0000

No. It is not an easy thing at all.
May you find some comfort in your memories.
Donna